‘The Big Sick’ is a festival anomaly: The comedy of Judd Apatow with the tender drama of Sundance
Reporting from Park City, Utah — Not long into “The Big Sick,” the new film produced by Judd Apatow, the lead character makes a choice one rarely sees in a mainstream U.S. comedy.
A young Pakistani Muslim visiting his parents for dinner tells them he’s going downstairs to pray, per their wishes. Then he heads to the basement, takes out a prayer mat, sets a timer for five minutes and does everything but pray before returning upstairs when the clock runs out.
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12:40 a.m. Nov. 16, 2024This piece was updated with the information about the film’s sale to Amazon.
Many comedies — and certainly many comedies under Apatow’s guiding hand — would play the scene for maximum (and likely raunchy) laughs. (In many comedies, the lead character wouldn’t be a Pakistani Muslim either, but that’s another matter.) Yet a more serious tone percolates here. The son has given up tradition, but hardly happily, and there’s something a little touching, even sad, about him having to conceal his choice.
The moment provides an early signal of a film far more interested in sympathizing with alternate points of view than in exploiting them for easy laughs. That idea is underscored later when the character and his parents argue angrily about the assimilationist direction their son’s life has taken — a scene you’d more likely find in a Salman Rushdie novel than the film of a man who made “Knocked Up.”
Gael Garcia Bernal speaks during the 2017 Sundance Film Festival Awards at Basin Recreation Field House in Park City, Utah, on Saturday.
(Nicholas Hunt / Getty Images)Bryan Fogel, right, with cast and crew members, accepts the Orwell Award for his film “Icarus.”
(Michael Loccisano / Getty Images)Director Michael Larnell, right, and Sean Kirkland accept the US Dramatic, Breakthrough Performance award on behalf of Chante Adams for the film “Roxanne Roxanne.”
(Nicholas Hunt / Getty Images )Peter Dinklage presents the U.S. Dramatic Grand Jury Prize at Sundance.
(Nicholas Hunt / Getty Images for Sundance Film Festival)Larry Wilmore speaks during the 2017 Sundance Film Festival Awards ceremony.
(Nicholas Hunt / Getty Images for Sundance Film Festival)Actors Kevin Bacon, left, and Kathryn Hahn at the premiere of “I Love Dick” at the MARC Theatre.
(Arthur Mola / Invision / Associated Press)Actor Peter Dinklage, left, and filmmaker Mark Palansky of “Rememory” attend The IMDb Studio featuring the Filmmaker Discovery Lounge.
(Rich Polk / Getty Images for IMDb)Analeigh Tipton and Jason Schwartzman attend the Creators League Studio.
(Jonathan Leibson / Getty Images for Creators League)Actor Mark Hamill attends the “Brigsby Bear” premiere at Eccles Center Theatre.
(Valerie Macon / AFP/Getty Images)Actors Anne Heche, Thomas Sadoski and AnnJewel Lee Dixon of “The Last Word” attend The IMDb Studio featuring the Filmmaker Discovery Lounge.
(Rich Polk / Getty Images for IMDb)Actors Zoey Deutch and Nicholas Hoult, director Danny Strong of “Rebel in the Rye” and Kevin Smith, top, attend the IMDb Studio featuring the Filmmaker Discovery Lounge.
(Rich Polk / Getty Images )Actors Tim Robbins, Jon Hamm, Lois Smith and Geena Davis attend the “Marjorie Prime” premiere at Eccles Center Theatre.
(Nicholas Hunt / Getty Images for Sundance Film Festival)Brigsby Bear attends the “Brigsby Bear” premiere at Eccles Center Theatre.
(Nicholas Hunt / Getty Images for Sundance Film Festival)Actor Lakeith Stanfield, left, and the film subject he plays, Colin Warner, attend the “Crown Heights” premiere at Library Center Theater.
(Sonia Recchia / Getty Images)Actor Nicholas Hoult at the premiere of “Rebel In The Rye.”
(Danny Moloshok / Invision / Associated Press)Comedian Patton Oswalt speaks onstage at the Shorts Program Awards and party at Jupiter Bowl.
(Matt Winkelmeyer / Getty Images for Sundance Film Festival)Times reporter Amy Kaufman and Logan Lerman speak at the Cinema Cafe at Filmmaker Lodge.
(Michael Loccisano / Getty Images for Sundance Film Festival)Actress Ann’Jewel Lee attends the “The Last Word” premiere at Eccles Center Theatre.
(Alberto E. Rodriguez / Getty Images for Sundance Film Festival)Executive producer Harvey Weinstein and executive producer and rapper Shawn “Jay-Z” Carter attend the “Time: The Kalief Browder Story” Sundance world premiere at The Marc Theatre.
(Neilson Barnard / Getty Images for Spike TV)Actress Sanaa Lathan attends the “Shots Fired” premiere.
(Michael Loccisano / Getty Images for Sundance Film Festival)Marti Noxon attends the Feature Fillm Competition dinner.
(Alberto E. Rodriguez / Getty Images for Sundance Film Festival)Director Mark Palansky, actor Martin Donovan, actress Katheryn Kirkpatrick, Matt Ellis, actress Julia Ormond and actor Peter Dinklage attend the “Rememory” premiere.
(Matt Winkelmeyer / Getty Images for Sundance Film Festival)Actors Logan Lerman, Blake Jenner, Elle Fanning, Michelle Monaghan and Margaret Qualley attend the “Sidney Hall” party at the Acura Studio at Sundance Film Festival 2017.
(Neilson Barnard / Getty Images for Acura)Cast and crew speak onstage during the “Shots Fired” premiere.
(Michael Loccisano / Getty Images for Sundance Film Festival)Actress Chloe Sevigny at the premiere of the film “Beatriz at Dinner” at the Eccles Theatre.
(Arthur Mola / Invision/Associated Press)Chef Cat Cora prepares entrees during a luncheon hosted by Glamour editor Cindi Leive and photographer Amanda de Cadenet.
(Vivien Killilea / Getty Images)Actresses Alfre Woodard and Elle Fanning attend the Lunch Celebrating Films Powered by Women.
(Vivien Killilea / Getty Images for Glamour)Jon Hamm, left, and Tim Robbins of the “Indiewire in Conversation” panel.
(Jack Dempsey / Invision / Associated Press)Shirley MacLaine, left, Salma Hayek, Cindi Leive, and Dee Rees at the Lunch Celebrating Films Powered by Women event.
(Vivien Killilea / Getty Images for Glamour)Reginald Hudlin, left, Stephanie Allain, Gerard McMurray, Mel Jones and Jason Michael Berman at the premiere of director McMurray’s “Burning Sands.”
(Nicholas Hunt / Getty Images )Malia Obama strolls on Main Street at the Sundance Film Festival at Park City, Utah.
(Danny Moloshok / Invision / Associated Press)Producer Noshre Chkhaidze, left, director Simon Grob, actress Ia Shugliashvili and producer Jonas Katzenstein attend the “My Happy Family” premiere at Egyptian Theatre.
(Alberto E. Rodriguez / Getty Images)Viewers take in Al Gore’s film “Melting Ice” on Condition One’s virtual-reality system at the Sundance VR release party.
(Valerie Macon / AFP/Getty Images)IMDb founder and Chief Executive Col Needham enjoys his 50th birthday party.
(Rich Polk / Getty Images )Actress Connie Britton attends the “Beatriz at Dinner” premiere at Eccles Theatre.
(Valerie Macon / AFP/Getty Images)Marti Noxon, left, writer and director of “To the Bone,” poses with cast members Lily Collins, center, and Carrie Preston at the Jan. 22 premiere of the film in Park City Utah, during the 2017 Sundance Film Festival.
(Chris Pizzello / Invision /Associated Press)Cartoonist Daniel Clowes, the screenwriter of “Wilson,” poses at the Jan. 22 premiere of the film in Park City, Utah, during the Sundance Film Festival.
(Chris Pizzello / Invision / Associated Press)Chanté Adams, Roxanne Shanté and actress Nia Long pose at the Jan. 22 premiere of the film “Roxanne Roxanne” in Park City, Utah, during the Sundance Film Festival.
(Arthur Mola / Invision / Associated Press)From left, Jeff Skoll, Al Gore, Heather Rae and David Suzuki speak on stage Jan. 22 at the New Climate Lunch Roundtable during the Sundance Film Festival in Park City, Utah.
(Matt Winkelmeyer / Getty Images )David Suzuki speaks on stage Jan. 22 at the New Climate Lunch Roundtable during the Sundance Film Festival in Park City, Utah.
(Matt Winkelmeyer / Getty Images for Sundance Film Festival)“Strong Island” executive producer Danny Glover relaxes Jan. 22 at the Indiewire Photo Studio at Chase Sapphire on Main during Sundance Film Festival in Park City, Utah.
(Jack Dempsey / Invision / Associated Press)Actress Brittany Snow of “Bushwick” attends the Acura Studio on Jan. 22 during Sundance Film Festival in Park City, Utah.
(Neilson Barnard / Getty Images )DJ Cool V and Biz Markie attend the Acura Studio Jan. 22 during the Sundance Film Festival in Park City, Utah.
(Neilson Barnard / Getty Images)Luca Guadagnino, Timothee Chalamet, Armie Hammer, Michael Stuhlbarg and Walter Fasano attend the Jan. 22 “Call Me By Your Name” premiere at Eccles Center Theatre during the Sundance Film Festival in Park City, Utah.
(Nicholas Hunt / Getty Images )Roxanne Shante performs onstage at the Jan. 22 “Roxanne, Roxanne” party in the Acura Festival Village during the Sundance Film Festival in Park City, Utah.
(Neilson Barnard / Getty Images )Biz Markie performs onstage at the Jan. 22 “Roxanne, Roxanne” party in the Acura Festival Village during the Sundance Film Festival in Park City, Utah.
(Neilson Barnard / Getty Images )Michaela Watkins, Jill Soloway, Jessica Williams and Stacey Wilson Hunt speak onstage Jan. 22 at an event hosted by the Bentonville Film Festival during the Sundance Film Festival in Park City, Utah.
(Joe Scarnici / Getty Images)Roxanne Shante and Chante Adams attend the Jan. 22 “Roxanne, Roxanne” party during the Sundance Film Festival in Park City, Utah.
(Neilson Barnard / Getty Images )Jon Daly, Brett Gelman, Nia Long, Judy Greer, Janicza Bravo and Shiri Appleby attend the Jan. 22 “Lemon” premiere at Library Center Theater during the Sundance Film Festival in Park City, Utah.
(Matt Winkelmeyer / Getty Images for Sundance Film Festival)Jack Black attends the Jan. 22 premiere of “The Polka King” at the Eccles Center Theatre during the Sundance Film Festival in Park City, Utah.
(Nicholas Hunt / Getty Images )Willie Garson, Jason Schwartzman, Jack Black, Jacki Weaver and Jenny Slate pose at the Jan. 22 premiere of “The Polka King” during the Sundance Film Festival in Park City, Utah.
(Danny Moloshok / Invision / Associated Press)Tim Robbins, center, shakes hands with Mary J. Blige, left, while introducing Blige to his son, Jack Robbins, at Sundance at the Music Lodge during the Sundance Film Festival.
(Jud Burkett / Invision for The Music Lodge)Actresses Elizabeth Olsen, left, and Aubrey Plaza from “Ingrid Goes West” during the “Indiewire in Conversation” panel at Chase Sapphire on Main.
(Jack Dempsey / Invision for Chase Sapphire)Executive producer John Legend poses at WGN America’s “Underground” Sundance red carpet screening.
(Danny Moloshok / Invision / Associated Press)Actors Aldis Hodge, left, and Jurnee Smollett-Bell at WGN America’s “Underground” Sundance red carpet screening during the 2017 Sundance Film Festival.
(Danny Moloshok / Invision / Associated Press)People march down Main Street during the March on Main event during the Sundance Film Festival.
(Kent Nishimura / Los Angeles Times)Brett Haley, left, director of “The Hero,” poses with cast members Nick Offerman, Sam Elliott and Katharine Ross at the premiere of the film at the Library Center Theatre.
(Chris Pizzello / Invision / Associated Press)Laura Prepon, left, a cast member in “The Hero,” with her fiancé, actor Ben Foster, at the premiere of the film at the Library Center Theatre.
(Chris Pizzello / Invision / Associated Press)Director Anthony Hemingway, left, producer John Legend, actors Jurnee Smollett-Bell and Aldis Hodge, and writer Misha Green speak at WGN America’s “Underground” panel at the Blackhouse Foundation.
(Gustavo Caballero / Getty Images for WGN AMERICA)Jason Mitchell, left, Dee Rees, Rob Morgan, Carey Mulligan, Mary J. Blige and Garrett Hedlund attend the “Mudbound” premiere at Eccles Center Theatre.
(Valerie Macon / AFP/Getty Images)Actors Lily Mojekwu, left, Griffin Dunne, Kathryn Hahn and Kevin Bacon of “I Love Dick” attend The IMDb Studio featuring the Filmmaker Discovery Lounge.
(Rich Polk / Getty Images for IMDb)Harvey Weinstein attends the “Wind River” party at the Acura Studio at Sundance Film Festival.
(Neilson Barnard / Getty Images for Acura)Actress Brittany Snow attends the “Bushwick” premiere.
(Alberto E. Rodriguez / Getty Images)A policeman with a bomb sniffing dog checks out a snow pile next to a Banksy artwork along Old Main Street on the first day of the 2017 Sundance Film Festival in Park City, Utah.
(George Frey / EPA)Omar Wasow, left, an assistant professor at Princeton in the department of politics, and director Jennifer Brea attend An Artist at the Table benefit during the 2017 Sundance Film Festival at DeJoria Center in Kamas, Utah.
(Nicholas Hunt / Getty Images for Sundance Film Festival)Former Vice President and cast member Al Gore speaks as he arrives for the premiere of “An Inconvenient Sequel: Truth to Power” at the 2017 Sundance Film Festival in Park City, Utah.
(George Frey / EPA)Kristen Stewart, left, David Shapiro, Josh Kaye and Sydney Lopez attend the world premiere of director Kristen Stewart’s “Come Swim” at Prospector Square Theatre.
(Joe Scarnici / Getty Images for Refinery29)Kristen Stewart attends the world premiere of “Come Swim.”
(Joe Scarnici / Getty Images for Refinery29)Actresses Molly Shannon, Alison Brie, Kate Micucci, and Aubrey Plaza attend “The Little Hours” premiere at Library Center Theater.
(Michael Loccisano / Getty Images for Sundance Film Festival)Jon Gabrus, Dave Franco, Nick Offerman, Trevor Groth, Aubrey Plaza, Jeff Baena, Molly Shannon, Alison Brie, Jemima Kirke, Kate Micucci, Adam Pally and Lauren Weedman, from left, attend “The Little Hours” premiere.
(Michael Loccisano / Getty Images for Sundance Film Festival)Former Vice President and cast member Al Gore, left, and Director of the Sundance Film Festival John Cooper arrive for the premiere of “An Inconvenient Sequel: Truth to Power.”
(George Frey / EPA)Actors Nick Offerman, left, Molly Shannon, and Dave Franco attend “The Little Hours” premiere.
(Michael Loccisano / Getty Images for Sundance Film Festival)Executive director of the Sundance Institute Keri Putnman, left, founder and president of the Sundance Film Festival Robert Redford and director of the Sundance Film Festival John Cooper talk to the media to open the 2017 Sundance Film Festival in Park City, Utah.
(George Frey / EPA)Robert Redford, founder of the Sundance Institute, addresses the audience at the opening night premiere of the film “An Inconvenient Sequel: Truth to Power,” at the Eccles Theater.
(Chris Pizzello / Invision / Associated Press)People are bundled up as temperatures dropped below 20 degrees along Main Street in Park City, Utah, as the start of the Sundance Film Festival approached.
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)A trolley rolls up Main Street in Park City, Utah, as the Sundance Film Festival approached.
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)The Egyptian Theatre on Main Street, one of the major venues for the Sundance Film Festival, is lit up a few nights before the festival’s opening in Park City, Utah.
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Ah, but Apatow is not the only influence here. The director is Michael Showalter, also behind the zany humanity of last year’s hit “Hello, My Name Is Doris.” And the character is an aspiring stand-up comedian played by Kumail Nanjiani, the Karachi-born “Silicon Valley” star. Nanjiani spent three years writing the script with his wife, Emily Gordon, basing it on the couple’s rocky, real-life courtship — and, equally important, his own fraught relationship with his traditionalist Muslim parents.
When “The Big Sick” made its premiere at the Sundance Film Festival on Friday night, it instantly distinguished itself as an early breakout and something of a unicorn. [Spoiler alert for the next paragraph: Skip ahead if you want to avoid.]
Starring Zoe Kazan as Emily (and with terrific supporting turns by Ray Romano and Holly Hunter as her parents), “Sick” traces what happens when — deep breath — the young couple fall in love, he conceals from Emily his parents’ insistence that he marry a Pakistani woman (and her existence from his parents), the couple have an explosive breakup, she becomes unexpectedly seriously ill, he has to navigate her parents while she’s incapacitated and, oh yes, also pursues his faltering career as a two-bit comedian.
Indeed, for a small movie, Nanjiani packs a lot of ambition on its shoulders: dating, career paths, intergenerational religious conflict, mortality, Muslims in post-9/11 America and the plight of the stand-up comic (hey, it’s still an Apatow movie).
Both Apatow and Nanjiani, for all his dry-as-the Kharan Desert delivery, are keen to make the comedic moments ripple with danger. When Romano’s dad character fumbily asks Kumail his thoughts about 9/11, the Pakistani American replies, “You’re asking my position on 9/11? Well, I’m anti. [Pause] We lost 19 of our best men.”
But it’s also a movie with emotion overflowing at every turn. I’ve rarely found the redemption in an Apatow movie — for all the talk about “heart” and “sweetness” — to feel especially close to how those moments play out in real life. Not so here, where the feeling of missed opportunities and human connection resonate like the real thing.
John Lithgow and Salma Hayek from the film “Beatriz at Dinner.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director and actress Michelle Morgan from the film “L.A. Times.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director Dan Sickles, left, director Antonio Santini and director of photography Adam Uhl from the film “Dina.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director of photography Adam Uhl from the film “Dina.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director Danny Strong, left, actor Nicholas Hoult and actress Zoey Deutch from the film “Rebel in the Rye.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Lois Smith from the film “Marjorie Prime.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Mark Hamill from the film “Brigsby Bear.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Nick Offerman from the film “The Hero.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director Jovanka Vuckovic from the film, “XX.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Laura Prepon from the film “The Hero.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Sam Elliott from the film “The Hero.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director Annie Clark (also known as the musician, St. Vincent) from the film “XX.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director Joshua Z. Weinstein, left, and Menashe Lustig from “Menashe” at the Sundance Film Festial in Park City, Utah, on Jan. 23.
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Zoe Chao, left, co-director Celia Rowlson-Hall, co-director Mia Lidofsky and actress Meredith Hagne from the television movie “Strangers.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Martin Donovan, left, actress Julia Ordmond, director Mark Palansky and actor Peter Dinklage from the film “Rememory.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Madeline Weinstein from the film “Beach Rats.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Ryan Horrigan, left, Paul Raphael, Felix Jajeunesse and Sebastian Sylvan from the film “Miyubi.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Harris Dickinson from the film “Beach Rats.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director Eliza Hittman from “Beach Rats.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actresses Nefessa Williams, left, Adriyan Rae, Steve Harris, Seryah and Imani Hakim from the film “Burning Sands.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Jon Daly, left, director Janicza Bravo, actress Judy Greer, actress Shiri Appelby and actor Brett Gelman of “Lemon.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Anya Taylor-Joy, director Cory Finley and actress Olivia Cooke from the film “Thoroughbred.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director Matt Heineman, second from right, and citizen journalists Mohamad Almusari, left, Hamoud Almousa and Abdalaziz from the documentary film “City of Ghosts.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Subjects Raj Majethia and Victoria Harrelson from the documentary film “The Mars Generation.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Subject Raj Majethia, left, director Michael Barnett and subject Victoria Harrelson from the documentary film “The Mars Generation.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Adam Horowitz, left, actress Emily Browning, director Alex Ross Perry and actress Analeigh Tipton from the film “Golden Exits.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director Wally Wolodarsky, left, actor Jack Black, actress Jenny Slate, director Maya Forbes, actress Jacki Weaver and actor Willie Garson from the film “The Polka King.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director Rory Kennedy and surfer Laird Hamilton, from the documentary film “Take Every Wave: The Life of Laird Hamilton.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Julia Jones from the film “Wind River.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Kelsy Asbille from the film “Wind River.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director Kogonada from the film “Columbus.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Rory Culkin, left, actor John Cho, actress Michelle Forbes, actress Haley Lu Richardson and actor Parker Posey from the film, “Columbus.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director Taylor Sheridan from the film “Wind River.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Gigi Gorgeous and director Barbara Kopple from the film “This Is Everything: Gigi Gorgeous.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Gigi Gorgeous, from “This Is Everything: Gigi Gorgeous.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Executive Producer Danny Glover, left, and director Yance Ford from the documentary film “Strong Island.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Sam Elliott, left, actor Nick Offerman, director Brett Haley, actress Katharine Ross and actress Laura Prepon from the film “The Hero.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Co-Executive Producer Sarah Gubbins, left, actor Griffin Dunne, actress India Menuez (kneeling), actress Roberta Colindrez, actor Kevin Bacon, director Jill Soloway, actress Kathryn Hahn and Lily Mojekwu from the Amazon series “I Love Dick.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Kathryn Hahn, actress Roberta Colindrez and director Jill Soloway from the Amazon series “I Love Dick.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Sasheer Zamata, director Sydney Freeland, actress Danielle Nicolet, actor David Sullivan, actress Rachel Crow and actress Ashleigh Murray, from the film “Diedra and Laney Rob a Train.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Daniel Houck and director Stefan Avalos from the documentary film “Strad Style.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Jeremy Renner from the film “Wind River,.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director/actor Zoe Lister-Jones from the film “Band Aid.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Chloe Sevigny from the film “Golden Exits.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Jack Black from the film “The Polka King.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Julia Jones from the film “Wind River.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Kelsy Asbille from the film “Wind River.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress America Ferrera from the new Web series “Gente-fied.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director Miguel Arteta from the film “Beatriz at Dinner.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Connie Britton from the film “Beatriz at Dinner.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Salma Hayek from the film “Beatriz at Dinner.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Jay Duplass jumps behind writer-director Gillian Robespierre, actress Jenny Slate, actress Edie Falco and actress Abby Quinn from the film “Landline.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Blake Jenner, actor Logan Lerman, actress Elle Fanning and actress Michelle Monaghan from the film “Sidney Hall.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Natalie Paul, left, actor Lakeith Stanfield, screenwriter Matt Ruskin and actor-producer Nnamdi Asomugha, from the film “Crown Heights.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Judy Greer, left, actor Woody Harrelson and actress Laura Dein, from the film “Wilson.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Josh O’Connor, left, director Francis Lee and actor Alec Secareanu, from the film “God’s Own Country.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Jaque Fragua, director Michelle Latimer, center, and Sarain Carson-Fox, from the documentary film “Rise.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director Amir Bar-Lev, left, Steve Parrish and Trixie Garcia, from the documentary film “Long Strange Trip.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor-producer Nnamdi Asomugha, from the film “Crown Heights.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director Andrew Dosunmu from the film “Where Is Kyra.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director Shawn Christensen from the film “Sidney Hall.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Garrett Hedlund, director Dee Rees, actor Rob Morgan, musician Mary J. Blige, and actress Cary Mulligan from the film “Mudbound.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Geremy Jasper, director and writer of the film “Patti Cake$.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Mamoudou Athie, left, actress Cathy Moriarty, actor Siddharth Dhananjay, director-writer Geremy Jasper, actress Bridget Everett and actress Danielle Macdonald from the film “Patti Cake$.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director Evgeny Afineevsky and subject Kholoud Helmi from the HBO documentary film “Cries From Syria.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Subject Marli Renfro and director Alexandre O. Philippe from the documentary film “78/52.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Ben York Jones, screenwriter of the film “Newness.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Aisha Tyler, who participated in the Women’s March through Park City.
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Rashida Jones, Jill Bauer, and Ronna Gradus of the film, “Hot Girls Wanted: Turned On.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Co-writer Justin Lader, Director Charlie McDowell, and Alex Orlovsky of the film, “The Discovery.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor David So of the film, “Gook.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Hania Amar of the film “The Nile Hilton Incident.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Fares Fares of the film “The Nile Hilton Incident.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director Tarik Saleh of the film, “The Nile Hilton Incident.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director Dee Rees of the film “Mudbound.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director Jim Strouse of the film “The Incredible Jessica James.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Tye Sheridan of the film, “Yellow Birds.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Pom Klementieff of the film, “Ingrid Goes West” and “Newness.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Jack Huston of the film, “Yellow Birds.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director Matt Spicer of the film “Ingrid Goes West.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Directors Cary Murnion and Jonathan Milott of the film, “Bushwick.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Jasna Fritzi Bauer and Director Helene Hegemann of the film “Axolotl Overkil.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Co-Director Sabbah Folyan, Kayla Reed, Tef Poe, Co-director Damon Davis of the documentary film, “Whose Streets.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Elizabeth Arjok, actor Fares Fares, director Tarik Saleh, actress Hania Amar, and actress Mari Malek of the film, “The Nile Hilton Incident.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Roxanne Shanté, and actress Nia Long of the film “Roxanne, Roxanne.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Michael Larnell, actress Chante Adams, Roxanne Shanté, actor Elvis Nolasco, and actress Nia Long of the film “Roxanne, Roxanne.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director Morgan Neville, Cristoph Neimann, Tinker Hatfield, and Scott Dadich of the Netflix series, “Abstract: Art of Design.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Cristoph Neimann of the Netflix series, “Abstract: Art of Design.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director Morgan Neville of the Netflix series, “Abstract: Art of Design.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Scott Dadich of the Netflix series, “Abstract: Art of Design.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Omono Okojie of the film “Gook.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Curtiss Cook Jr., and actress Simone Baker of the film “Gook.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Brittny Snow and actor Dave Bautista of the film, “Bushwick.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director Austin Peter of the documentary film “Give Me Future.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Cary Mulligan of the film “Mudbound.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director and actor Justin Chon of the film, “Gook.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director Lone Scherfig of the film “Their Finest.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Pom Klementieff of the film “Ingrid Goes West.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director Alexandre Moors of the film, “Yellow Birds.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor O’Shea Jackson Jr., actress Aubrey Plaza, director Matt Spicer, and actress Pom Klementieff of the film “Ingrid Goes West.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Richard Vevers, Director Jeff Orlowski and Zackery Rago of he film, “Chasing Coral.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Chelsea Handler.
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director Austin Peters, musician Jillionare, and singer/songwriter Diplo, of the documentary film “Give Me Future.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Singer/songwriter Diplo, Thomas Wesley Pentz of the documentary film “Give Me Future.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Musician Jillionaire of the documentary film “Give Me Future.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Lakeith Stanfield of the film “The Incredible Jessica James.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Chris O’Dowd of the film “The Incredible Jessica James.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Aubrey Plaza of the film, “Ingrid Goes West.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor O’Shea Jackson Jr. of the film “Ingrid Goes West.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Jessica Williams of the film “The Incredible Jessica James.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Mari Malek of the film “The Nile Hilton Incident.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Jasna Fritzi Bauer of the film “Axolotl Overkil.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Executive Producer Tim Robbins and his son, Director Jack Henry Robbins, from the short “Hot Winter, A Film By Dick Pierre.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Michael Larnell of the film “Roxanne, Roxanne.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Garrett Hedlund of the film “Mudbound.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Executive Producers Christopher Cohen, Sean Hayes, Mark Herzog (kneeling) and Todd Milliner of the CNN series, “History of Comedy.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Executive Producer Sean Hayes of the television series, “History of Comedy.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Melanie Lynskey of the film, “I Don’t Feel at Home in This World Anymore.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Nia Long of the film “Roxanne, Roxanne.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Simone Baker of the film, “Gook.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Elizabeth Arjok of the film, “The Nile Hilton Incident.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Roxanne Shante of the film “Roxanne, Roxanne.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Elvis Nolasco of the film “Roxanne, Roxanne.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Jack Henry Robbins, from the short, “Hot Winter, A Film By Dick Pierre.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Mari Malek of the film “The Nile Hilton Incident.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Jasna Fritzi Bauer of the film “Axolotl Overkil.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Maya Stange, director Damien Power and actor Aaron Glenna from the film “Killing Ground.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Dolores Huerta from the documentary “Dolores.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Jorma Taccone from the film “L.A. Times.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Aaron Glenane from the film “Killing Ground.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Directors Andrew Smith and Alex Smith with the film “Walking Out.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Molly Shannon from the film “The Little Hours.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Lauren Weedman, actor Jon Gabrus, actress Kate Micucci, director Jeff Baena, actress Alison Brie, actor Dave Franco, Adam Pally and actress Molly Shannon with the film “The Little Hours.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress/director Michelle Morgan and actors Jorma Taccone and Dree Hemingway from the film “L.A. Times.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director Marina Zenovich of the film “Water and Power.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Florence Pugh and director William Oldroyd from the film “Lady MacBeth.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Producer Ryland Aldrich, from the film “L.A. Times.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Front: Actors Kingston Foster and Jason Maybaum; back: actors Rio Mangini Jason Ritter and Brighton Sharbino from the film “Bitch.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Kingston Foster, director Marianna Palka, actress Brighton Sharbino, actor Rio Mangini, actor Jason Ritter, actor Jason Maybaum, actress Jaime King and actor Zac Clark with the film “Bitch.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director Amanda Lipitz, center, and step team members, from left, Tayla Solomon, Cori Granger and Blessin Giraldo from the documentary “Step.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Team members, from left, Tayla Solomon, Cori Granger and Blessin Giraldo from the documentary “Step.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Zoe Kazan with the film “The Big Sick.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Joshua Wong and director Joe Piscatella with the documentary “Joshua: Teenager vs. Superpower.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)From left, producer Barry Mendel, actress Holly Hunter, director Michael Showalter, actress Zoe Karan, writer Emily V. Gordon, writer Kumail Nanjiani, and producer Judd Apatow with the film “The Big Sick.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Husband and wife co-writers Kumail Nanjiani and Emily V. Gordon from “The Big Sick.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Consulting Producer Benjamin Bratt of the film “Dolores.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director Kristen Stewart of the film “Come Swim.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Holly Hunter with the film “The Big Sick.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Logan Miller, actress Cynthy Wu, director Ry-Russo Young and actresses Zoey Deutch, Elena Kampouris, Medalion Rahimi and Jennifer Beals, from the film “Before I Fall.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Zoey Deutch, from the film “Before I Fall.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Medalion Rahimi, from the film “Before I Fall.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Elena Kampouris, from the film “Before I Fall.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Jennifer Beals, from the film “Before I Fall.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actress Cynthy Wu, from the film “Before I Fall.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Logan Miller, from “Before I Fall.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actor Miles Fischer, from the television show “Playdates.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Composer Dan Romer, from the films “The Little Hours” and “Chasing Coral.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Director Jamie Greenberg, who’s at Sundance with the film “Future ’38.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Directors Shaul Schwarz and Christina Clusiau, with the documentary “Trophy.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Peter Nicks director of the documentary film “The Force.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Composer Dan Romer, attending Sundance with the films “The Little Hours” and “Chasing Coral.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actors Paul Scheer and Carla Gallo, from the television show “Playdates.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Actors Paul Scheer, left, Carla Gallo and Miles Fisher, from the television show “Playdates.”
(Jay L. Clendenin / Los Angeles Times)Partly that’s a function of an indie/Sundance movie. And partly it’s a function of Nanjiani and Gordon pouring their own lives into the script. (They’ve now been married 10 years.)
I asked Nanjiani at an after-party how they found the dramatic-comedy balance. “It was about trying to make a movie like ‘Tootsie’ or ‘Broadcast News’ — a movie where the dramatic scenes are really dramatic and the comedic scenes are really funny,” he said. “Most dramatic comedies now try too much to walk a line, they’re only a little funny and only a little dramatic.”
Of course, trying to do really funny and really serious could make a film wildly bi-tonal, swinging too much from one moment to the next. For the most part, he avoids this problem.
Taking the stage at the premiere, Gordon noted her smooth relationship with Nanjiani’s parents, and she was asked how they finally reached a good place. She deferred to the man who was for so long caught between them. “A lot of [messed-up] dinners,” Nanjiani quipped, echoing a line from the movie. “We took the first step of 40 on the road to reconciliation. [Pause] We’re in the low 30s right now.”
“The Big Sick” was purchased at the festival for $12 million by Amazon Studios. Whether they will give it a “Trainwreck”-style wide release remains to be seen, but they’ve got a movie that’s a rarity: funny, emo and personal.
As Apatow said at the premiere, tipping his cap to the screenwriting couple, “The whole movie is a giving gesture. And I commend you for sharing.”
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Steven Zeitchik is a former Los Angeles Times staff writer who covered film and the larger world of Hollywood for the paper from 2009 to 2017, exploring the personalities, issues, content and consequences of both the creative and business (and, increasingly, digital) aspects of our screen entertainment. He previously covered entertainment beats at Variety and the Hollywood Reporter, has contributed arts and culture pieces to the Wall Street Journal, the Washington Post and the New York Times and has done journalistic tours of duty in Jerusalem and Berlin. While at The Times he has also reported stories in cities ranging from Cairo to Krakow, though Hollywood can still seem like the most exotic destination of all.