How do our Latino parents shape our romantic relationships? Here's one artist's exploration - Los Angeles Times

How do our Latino parents shape our romantic relationships? Here’s one artist’s exploration

A cartoon Julio Salgado

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By Julio Salgado

Nov. 13, 2023 10:48 AM PT

When it comes to building healthy relationships with romantic partners, there is only so much we can blame our family traumas for when things don’t work out.

Theres been a stereotype in Hollywood about the portrayals of our Latinx communities when it comes to love.

I turned to my parents to try and understand what it meant to be in a relationship.

When I got my first and last girlfriend in high school, I assigned myself the role of a protector.

When I started dating men in college, I somehow equated that to having to be softer and understanding.

It was confusing because during arguments, I would wonder if I should cry like my mom or use a higher tone like my dad.

Then I started therapy. I was lucky to find a therapist that was both gay and Mexican like myself.

When I offered that perhaps my parents had ruined my ability to attempt a healthy relationship, he called me out.

You're a grown-ass adult and there's only so much you can blame your parents for until you start working on yourself.

As I continue to navigate love with a baggage full of trauma, I've learned to let my guard down a little bit.

Julio Salgado (@juliosalgado83) is a digital illustrator based in Long Beach.

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