Your life could probably use more wonder. Here’s how to find it

Good morning. It’s Friday, Jan. 19. I’m Julia Carmel, a West Coast experiences reporter. Here’s what you need to know to start your day.

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Could your life could use more wonder? Here’s how to find it

When was the last time you experienced awe?

For me, it was this morning, as I took a walk around my neighborhood and spotted clusters of yellow flowers atop a two-story-high cactus in a neighbor’s frontyard. I stood there for a second and watched as bees (and one small bird) swarmed around the flowers, thinking about how beautiful it is to watch a plant stretch toward the sun.

This isn’t my natural disposition. But in 2023, I decided to reorient my life around appreciating the big and little things that spark awe and childlike wonder.

It may feel frivolous to focus on small joys when there are plenty of reasons to feel depressed or anxious about the state of the world, but studies have proved that awe can help our mental and physical health. After talking to experts and reframing my own life, I’ve learned this is a skill you can practice easily. (If you want to learn about generating your own childlike wonder in all sorts of places, I’ve written a guide that can be found here.)

This pursuit of awe introduced me to Dacher Keltner, a psychology professor at UC Berkeley, who recently published “Awe: The New Science of Everyday Wonder and How It Can Transform Your Life.” As an expert on emotions, he has found plenty of reasons we should prioritize them.

“Awe is an emotion that you feel when you encounter vast things that are mysterious,” Keltner explained. “Wonder is what follows awe. It is a mental state, less-so an emotion. It’s just a mental state where you’re curious and wanting to explore and discover.”

And with more than 25 years of research under his belt, he has been able to determine eight wonders of life: moral beauty (witnessing the virtue of others); collective effervescence (often experienced in large groups like those at weddings, rallies or sporting events); nature; music; visual design (beautiful buildings, paintings and the like); spiritual and religious experiences; life and death; and epiphanies.

Appreciating these moments can generally shrink our sense of self and help us lead happier lives.

“I started to think about the problems associated with too much self-focus — depression, rumination, anxiety, shame, self-harm, suicide, body image issues,” Keltner said. “Here’s an emotion that frees us of that, and gets us to see how we’re a part of much larger things.”

And there are plenty of other experts who will advocate for the importance of awe, wonder and play. Catherine L’Ecuyer, author of “The Wonder Approach,” emphasized the importance of appreciating the people we see on a daily basis.

“We adults tend to get used to the beauty of the world and take it for granted,” L’Ecuyer said.

This pursuit of childlike wonder also led me to Stuart Brown, founder of the National Institute for Play, who has been studying play since 1966. Throughout the years, he has interviewed thousands of people — “from Nobel laureates to murderers” — to map out their play patterns.

And though play is just one piece of this existential puzzle, maintaining a healthy sense of playfulness can make it much easier to access awe.

“From birth to death, [play is] a part of being human,” Brown told me. “But when it’s not experienced, there are consequences. And the consequences are mild depression, or an outlook that’s not optimistic and not creative and not innovative.”

There are many ways to open your life up to more awe and wonder, such as Keltner’s daily awe walks, during which he slows down to appreciate the things growing around him.

But even if that’s not your cup of tea, finding awe can be simple. Maybe you’ll find yourself appreciating the beauty of a delicious home-cooked meal, or the joy of having a spontaneous conversation with the person standing next to you in line at the grocery store.

If you’re curious to learn more about how we can create more wonder-filled lives, the whole step-by-step article is here. I’d also love to hear from you — tell me about something (or someone) that made you feel a bit of awe and wonder recently. It’ll definitely make me smile.

Today’s top stories

Laphonza Butler is shown during her swearing-in ceremony to the U.S. Senate in October.

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California politics

• Sen. Laphonza Butler discusses America’s challenges and the next presidential election, the war in Gaza and what she hopes to accomplish in office.
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Business

• L.A. Times Guild calls for a one-day walkout to protest looming staff cuts.
• Former Fox News political director Chris Stirewalt lands a Sunday show on NewsNation.
• Pasadena’s historic Vroman’s bookstore is up for sale, along with Book Soup.

Courts and crime

• Justice Department report finds “cascading failures” and “no urgency” in the Uvalde shooting response.
• NBA’s Josh Giddey won’t face charges over alleged relationship with underage O.C. girl.
• ‘I just grabbed my gun for some reason’: A trial opens in a freeway shooting death of a 6-year-old.

More big stories

• Texas arrests migrants at a border park, defying Biden’s command to stop blocking Border Patrol.
• A California panel is holding up studies on psychedelics. Some researchers want it gone.
• A lifesaving transplant awaits Arthur Yu — if the U.S. government lets his donor into the country.
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Commentary and opinions

• LZ Granderson: When it comes to Gaza, the U.S. has decided whose suffering counts more.
• Opinion: Taiwan keeps choosing democracy — and rejecting China.

Today’s great reads

(Al Seib / Los Angeles Times)

Despite California exodus, the well-off and well-educated still flock here. Will they stay? New census data discount the notion that California’s housing and affordability crisis is pushing away educated residents, resulting in a so-called brain drain.

Other great reads

• Inside the Getty’s rigorous effort to fix a 500-year-old broken masterpiece.
• The 10 movies we’re most looking forward to at Sundance 2024.
• L.A. and Latina-owned brand featured in new “Mean Girls” movie.
• “Am I just being me or am I acting?” An oral history of HBO’s “Curb Your Enthusiasm.”
• A new Blockbuster store? California woman uses little free library concept for movies.
  

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For your downtime

A preschooler is entertained by the Disney character Pluto in Toontown in Disneyland in March.

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Going out

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Staying in

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And finally ... a great photo

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Geothermal water flows into a lake at Murrieta Hot Springs Resort. The site is a geothermal spa that goes back more than a century.

(Myung J. Chun / Los Angeles Times)

Today’s great photo is from Times photographer Myung J. Chung at Murrieta Hot Springs Resort, a wellness resort and hotel that offers spa services, all sorts of soaking, 174 hotel rooms and several buildings that date to the early 20th century.

Have a great day, from the Essential California team

Julia Carmel, West Coast experiences reporter
Elvia Limón, multiplatform editor
Kevinisha Walker, multiplatform editor
Laura Blasey, assistant editor
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